Joy happened to drop me a note the other day with the interesting news that she would be vacationing on a remote island, within sort-of-reasonable travel distance from my own Fortress Of Solitude, and wondered if I might be up for a spring fling of sorts...
Hell yes!
I had a week's notice of the general location. We made plans to meet at a well-hidden magical nest, in a place with plenty of sunny outdoor spots to play, indoor spots that might-as-well be outdoors, and insane amounts of privacy.
We met in the late morning, after figuring out how to storm the beaches of this getaway and some wandering through the woods to locate the final destination.
We then had a completely luxurious day to play, both of us completely relaxed from being in such a magical and lovely spot. Joy and I have played many times before, often in incredibly theatrical roleplays or complex scenes - this time we simply gave in to the temptations of the day with abandon, and with no agenda or preconceptions.
I really don't remember much in specific (nor would I tell you if I did :-) ) - we were on Cloud 9 most of the time. I wonder if Joy knew that our location was right atop what some say is one of the more spiritually energetic spots on the planet.... Joy is lovely, full of spirit, very intuitive, and is more powerful than she knows :-)
It was with some sadness that we departed in the late afternoon so I could catch the correct tide to escape to the Real World, and she could return to her vacation getaway.
My experience with Joy is always far removed from the ordinary. Every time I see her, her already-incredible skills have improved another notch - I always look forward to seeing how she has evolved, and where she is going!
Here are the pictures she shared with me of her morning sun worship -
What an exciting weekend, full of events to support International Women's Day, celebrating women and raising awareness of gender equality!
I love being a woman. I AM a strong, empowered, independent woman, which makes some men cringe. Recently I read a fellow writing with contempt about feminists, claiming they are men-bashers. I am a feminist, but I adore men. How can I bash anyone when I believe in equality regardless of gender, religion, race, background, sexual orientation, or abilities. Have I left ANY one out?!
I AM also a feminine, soft, gentle woman, which seems to make those same men desire my company. I suppose I am a dichotomy of sorts, but I like that I am well-rounded in body, mind, and spirit, and whole-heartedly support nurturing and developing both the feminine and masculine within us all. Why shouldn't we be celebrating the achievements and skills of all? I especially love connecting with those men who accept me just as I am, and find me a charming, stimulating companion.
Interestingly enough, my younger years were spent not so much as an empowered woman, but as one suffering great struggles and tribulation. It may not come as such a surprise to know then, how I've embraced my explorations in sensual domination with great zeal. It takes a unique person to participate in such affairs, along with a deeper understanding of power exchange and the rules of consensuality, for it is within this vulnerable exploration of surrender that healing, balance, and acceptance occur. Here is what has emerged in me -
I've always felt a connection between Bach's music and BDSM. It comes as no surprise to me then that this particular piece was used in the soundtrack of the film - 50 Shades of Grey.
I happened to have enjoyed the movie very much, though I have strong opinions regarding the female lead. Let me start at the beginning:
The plan was to enjoy a Valentine's Date with my date in the role of submissive 'Andrew Steele' and I, naturally, assumed the role of dominant 'Christine Grey'. First we would attend a showing of the movie, followed by as 'Andrew' stated "live action with him tied up and helpless to resist whatever pleasures I choose to bestow." You can imagine the wicked smile on my face that appeared with such a suggestion.
He shares his fantasy with more detail:
Who we are: You , of course, are Christina Grey, twin sister of the billionaire magnate Christian, he of the unlimited resources and most peculiar appetites, needs, and yes in fact, insecurities. I am Andres Steele, twin brother of Anastasia, and therefore your polar opposite (or perhaps actually soulmate) in terms of sexual sensibilities. You see in my eyes what perhaps I do not even see myself, at least at the start. You can see that I am by nature a submissive, willing to do what you want and allow myself to be subject to your whims. But you also see what even I myself do not see - a fire in my eyes, a strange contradictory mix of conflicting desires. I am not some spineless docile doormat who wishes to simply lie there while you indulge yourself. I want to be restrained, yes; but I want to fight back. I want to resist. The perhaps slightly unhinged part is that I want to resist with all my strength and will, but be completely unable to do so. As you come toward me to give pleasure or pain or teasing or biting or licking or pinching or (let your imagination run), my twisted erotic need is to resist with all my being, but helplessly, in a futile struggle to stop you. Some may call that sick or twisted or at the very least strange - to me, even though perhaps I don't know it yet, it is transcendent. Therefore, when I become enveloped in your magical Shibari ropes, it cannot be a semi-loose pretense of an effort to hold me down. I must be locked down tight, arms and legs totally immobile. No ability to roll away, to stand up, to evade you in any way. Because I will try. You see in my eyes that I can only reach my ultimate arousal if I do truly struggle against the situation, finding satisfaction in surrender only after I have exhausted every ounce of myself. If I am only pretending to be restrained, the thrill is lost. You see all this in me, and you delight in the challenge I present, that of a submissive, yes, but one with fire and intense will, who can only be satisfied by being truly taken. This submissive will allow himself to be tied down, that sets up the erotic allure, but after that, he will fight you every step of the way. You take satisfaction in that, and he does too, creating this bizarre yet magical experience for both of you.
I have been planning to see Joy upon my return to Seattle following a most wonderful summer of discovery.
I had to cancel a mid-fall trip, but was able to finally set a time to come back this month. I have had the pleasure of staying in touch with Joy since our wonderful initial encounter and requested an extended visit, that included social time out on the town, as well as private time to be absorbed in intimate discovery and enjoyment.
While working with words is part of my vocation, I find myself a bit at a loss to adequately capture what spending the better part of a day with Joy is like. We never lacked for words, for topics to explore, from music, to food, to passion.
There are times when I am envious of her admirers in Seattle, as they live near and can avail themselves of Joy's company frequently. I live distant, and can only get here infrequently. We spent an amazingly engaging social outing. She accompanied me to a shop I wanted to visit, we strolled through Pikes Place Market, picked out a nice bottle of wine for later in the day. That is one of the particular charms of Joy. She is engaging in any setting, she makes me feel like the center of all that is interesting.
At the end of our outing, we found a quaint French Bistro. Joy and I enjoyed exploring new foods, and wine, over a meal in a romantic setting. Honestly, the day could have ended there, and I would have still left with a smile, as she helped me discover the pleasures of the simple company of a woman that life’s circumstances no longer permit. But, I should add, nothing about time with Joy is simple … she is constantly, consistently, engaging. I do not recall when I last smiled this much!
At the close of our time out on the town, we retired to a private setting and Joy soon reminded me of all of the other reasons I wanted to see her again. She knows my desires better than I do, she anticipates, she knows what I need. She is very sensual, skillfull, sexual, and oh so responsive. Simply suffice it for me to say that hours can (and were) occupied with the pleasures of mutual discovery. The details do not matter, trust me to know that time with her brought me more pleasures than I imagined possible.
Joy is a wholistic, engaging, woman, and she knows how to remind me, to make me feel, that I am all man.
Somehow she snapped a photo of the nifty robes available at our luxurious accommodations when I wasn't looking...which I always was!
A gentleman admirer recently asked how he could pamper me. My first thoughts were just the fact that he was thinking of me and sharing his time with me meant the world to me. But he gently suggested he would like to do something more, something special...and encouraged me to think of ways he could make my life a gentler, more beautiful place.
How amazing is that? So, with that in mind...
Twenty-five Days til Christmas
or
Twenty-five Ways to please your Lover (me!)
1. Dark Chocolate and Red Wine - if you don't already know the healthful benefits of dark chocolate and red wine, as well, you should take a second look. And since this gentleman admirer already knew of my love for chocolate, he had a box sent to me of the most artistic, delicious chocolates I've ever had.
Here's proof ~
Before I devoured one of them, I had to take a thank you picture for him.
2. Yoga - my yoga practice is an important part of my well-being. Whether a single class, a month or year pass, or even attending a class with me, this gift would touch me/us in a very special way. I'm also eager to explore a fitness class, dance lessons, swimming, or racquet ball with a fine friend. Might that interest you as well?
3. Are you a 'sound' nerd like I am? At your last visit did you notice how my speakers have been aging or how I had to lug my computer around so we could enjoy the music I chose for us. How I'd love someone to figure out a whole house system. Or maybe even some of those Bose headphones that would be particularly exciting for one of those visits where we play with sensory overload or deprivation!
4. What woman doesn't enjoy a trip to the hair salon? I am no longer coloring my hair and love the dark ask blonde sprinkled with my life's experiences. I know you love my perky hairstyle, and will appreciate that perfect stylist who knows just how to make my natural hair look great.
5. Give the Gift of Music. My closest friends know that I support the fine arts. There are those who are without the means to attend concerts or take music lessons. I like being an advocate for those people and making it possible for them to enjoy all the benefits of music. If this interests you, let's chat!
6. Give the Gift of Warmth. I support several charitable organizations that give travel-size toiletries, socks, gloves, hats, and coats to those in need, especially with the temperatures hitting the teens. I would love to connect with you, if you have items to donate.
8. The weather is probably biting and cold and the thought of sinking into a hot tub and enjoying a massage at The Little Red Day Spa would be simply amazing. They even have rather enticing packages available for couples.... :)
9. In thinking about enticing packages for couples, I enjoy offering Couples Bliss sessions along with one of my good friends, also skilled in touch. Two tables side by side while you and someone special receive an indulgent touch from two Goddesses of Touch. To make this possible, I would like to add a new massage table to my collection, preferably one that will be a bit roomier. I like supporting local businesses and have found that Zenith Supplies has all I need for my Healing Touch interests.
10. The 10th Day of December is Wednesday - Hump Day. Here's a fun place to enjoy the day in a sexy way. I like supporting the Center for Sex-Positive Culture and a renewal of my membership would be a great gift, plus I could hold your hand (or more) if you wanted to check it out too.
11. I know how you fellows love to keep your cars buffed and shining. I simply don't have the patience! I would rather buff and shine you. :) So, if a car wash and detailing is your thing, my nice new car and I would be ever so grateful.
13. Let's attend a Seattle Symphony Concert together, or perhaps you'd like to gift a season subscription, or a single concert. Yo Yo Ma will be playing in Seattle on May 3rd?! What a dream it would be for me to hear him in person. A cello is one of the few instruments missing from my music room. Maybe if I had one, I could be as good as Yo Yo.
14. Did you know I love to cook? A good chef's knife would make prep work a breeze. I'm told that this one fits in a smaller hand more easily, but then I discovered this one with an artsy look. Choices!
15. More kitchen cravings - I cannot help but drool when I see these, and I have been lusting after one since I was a teen. True story!
16. With continued thoughts of health and wellness an acupuncture appointment always makes a difference in my well-being. Perhaps the idea frightens you. If *I* can handle the needles, then surely you can. If you'd like to explore this idea, we could enjoy a Happy Hour appointment together!
17. One of my keen interests is in giving kinky massages. Though I have my own style and expertise, I have always wanted to take the Bondassage Training and Elysium Training by Jaeleen Bennis and have felt that this is an unattainable goal. You might be in store for a life-time of kinky massages should you make this dream come true.
19. It's the last Friday before Christmas. I'd rather be enjoying a bit of jazz than shopping. This is THE place to go and a lot of fun to experience with someone special. You just won't be able to stop smiling if we go together. Or if a private jazz concert is to your liking, a gift certificate for sheet music at a local music store would inspire me to learn your favorite piece.
20. I do not often indulge, for my feet are so ticklish, but I love have my feet pampered and always wear toe rings and pretty polish. Toe rings are always adjustable, so the size won't matter, and this is my favorite spot for a pedi/mani.
21. The Longest Night of the Year is this day. Wouldn't it be nice to share it with the twinkling of many lights, perhaps escaping to Leavenworth for the final night of the tree lighting? I have never experienced Leavenworth, but you and I could! Candles could be a good substitute for this evening and a promise of a getaway trip planned for the future.
22. Sometimes I feel like a real dinosaur when it comes to techie types of things. The one gadget I use every day, all day (it seems), and is my number one necessity is my computer. Mine is rather old and so low on memory that it is limited in its functionality. Replacing it would be a godsend!
23. Sometimes it's just gifts of little acts of service that can bring a grateful smile to someone's face. Raking leaves, mowing the lawn, trimming the trees, or a multitude of other 'handy man' types of things are so appreciated.
24. I've been neglectful of all those dainty, feminine things that I love to wear...lingerie, bracelets, scarves, dresses, shoes, fine stockings, earrings, silky things, velvety things, leather, cashmere. All those sensuous things that make you want to touch, or exclaim "how beautiful".
25. Donate a Christmas Tree and Holiday Dinner to someone without, or if you wish for me to be a recipient, I prefer plants that are potted from this garden store and a lovely meal at Lark!
