Rite of Spring with The Goddess

Spring cannot arrive without the longing for a primal, ritualistic scene of massive proportions, with a sacrificial lamb (consensual, of course) surrendering to the deepest, darkest desires of The Goddess.

As music is always my magic wand, creating an atmosphere to spiral you into the depths of my devious doings, here is a taste of what you would experience in my presence.

A scene from the start of such a ritual, slowing peeling back the layers of my sacrificial lamb.

Crucifixion

oh yes?  You didn't think you could sneak past me, did you?

The Full Moon energy arrived before I even realized it,  

a wonderment, to be sure,

but made itself evident in ways all too personal too share.

Plus an introspective, deeply intense time...this Holy Week for many faith traditions.  I mean absolutely no disrespect to those traditions, but just intend to share a walk of a different sort into my Shibari Chamber.  An experience of deep, intense sensations.  A surrendering of the most powerful sort.  To be crucified brings healing of great magnitude.

Your Crucifixion

Let's go deeper and immerse yourself within the music of a didgeridoo 

as you become bound together.

I would love to hear your response regarding such an experience!

- W - O - M - A - N -

What an exciting weekend, full of events to support International Women's Day, celebrating women and raising awareness of gender equality!

I love being a woman.  I AM a strong, empowered, independent woman, which makes some men cringe.  Recently I read a fellow writing with contempt about feminists, claiming they are men-bashers.  I am a feminist, but I adore men.  How can I bash anyone when I believe in equality regardless of gender, religion, race, background, sexual orientation, or abilities.  Have I left ANY one out?!

I AM also a feminine, soft, gentle woman, which seems to make those same men desire my company.  I suppose I am a dichotomy of sorts, but I like that I am well-rounded in body, mind, and spirit, and whole-heartedly support nurturing and developing both the feminine and masculine within us all.  Why shouldn't we be celebrating the achievements and skills of all?  I especially love connecting with those men who accept me just as I am, and find me a charming, stimulating companion.

Here is an interesting study that suggests men and women are really not that different at all - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/04/men-women-differences-minimal-mars-venus-study_n_2618199.html

Interestingly enough, my younger years were spent not so much as an empowered woman, but as one suffering great struggles and tribulation.  It may not come as such a surprise to know then, how I've embraced my explorations in sensual domination with great zeal.  It takes a unique person to participate in such affairs, along with a deeper understanding of power exchange and the rules of consensuality, for it is within this vulnerable exploration of surrender that healing, balance, and acceptance occur.  Here is what has emerged in me -

Here I stand.  I AM  W - O - M - A - N  !

An Erotic Story - 50 Shades of Miss J.F.

I've always felt a connection between Bach's music and BDSM.  It comes as no surprise to me then that this particular piece was used in the soundtrack of the film - 50 Shades of Grey.

I happened to have enjoyed the movie very much, though I have strong opinions regarding the female lead.  Let me start at the beginning:

The plan was to enjoy a Valentine's Date with my date in the role of submissive 'Andrew Steele' and I, naturally, assumed the role of dominant 'Christine Grey'.  First we would attend a showing of the movie, followed by as 'Andrew' stated "live action with him tied up and helpless to resist whatever pleasures I choose to bestow."  You can imagine the wicked smile on my face that appeared with such a suggestion.

He shares his fantasy with more detail:

Who we are:  You , of course, are Christina Grey, twin sister of the billionaire magnate Christian, he of the unlimited resources and most peculiar appetites, needs, and yes in fact, insecurities.  I am Andres Steele, twin brother of Anastasia, and therefore your polar opposite (or perhaps actually soulmate) in terms of sexual sensibilities.

You see in my eyes what perhaps I do not even see myself, at least at the start.  You can see that I am by nature a submissive, willing to do what you want and allow myself to be subject to your whims.  But you also see what even I myself do not see - a fire in my eyes, a strange contradictory mix of conflicting desires.  I am not some spineless docile doormat who wishes to simply lie there while you indulge yourself.  I want to be restrained, yes; but I want to fight back.  I want to resist.  The perhaps slightly unhinged part is that I want to resist with all my strength and will, but be completely unable to do so.  As you come toward me to give pleasure or pain or teasing or biting or licking or pinching or (let your imagination run), my twisted erotic need is to resist with all my being, but helplessly, in a futile struggle to stop you.  Some may call that sick or twisted or at the very least strange - to me, even though perhaps I don't know it yet, it is transcendent.

Therefore, when I become enveloped in your magical Shibari ropes, it cannot be a semi-loose pretense of an effort to hold me down.  I must be locked down tight, arms and legs totally immobile.  No ability to roll away, to stand up, to evade you in any way.  Because I will try.  You see in my eyes that I can only reach my ultimate arousal if I do truly struggle against the situation, finding satisfaction in surrender only after I have exhausted every ounce of myself.  If I am only pretending to be restrained, the thrill is lost.  You see all this in me, and you delight in the challenge I present, that of a submissive, yes, but one with fire and intense will, who can only be satisfied by being truly taken.  This submissive will allow himself to be tied down, that sets up the erotic allure, but after that, he will fight you every step of the way.  You take satisfaction in that, and he does too, creating this bizarre yet magical experience for both of you.

How do you think our erotic adventure played out?

A PhotoShoot: Two Sides of the Same Coin

I recently had the pleasure of a visit from a good friend who is a fine art photographer. 

He captured a few of the essences you may not know of Joy, the seductive, sophisticated sweetheart 

and her kinkier counterpart, Miss J.F. - Mischief, to be exact.

Let's begin with Joy, a woman who adores sensuality and men, and creates a life of abundance and vibrancy that she eagerly invites her lover to enter in.

Satins and silk stockings.

Corsets, lace, and garters.

And, of course, smiles.

   

Let's now draw attention to the mischief-maker, Miss J.F.,
who has the keys to unlock your deepest desires.

Perhaps your particular fetish is legs, feet, or boots.

 

Or other womanly charms

Or maybe you've been longing for a powerful woman

to surrender to completely,

She will stimulate your senses wildlly and make you breathless for her touch.

Should you get a bit fidgety, while she teases and torments you

in the most pleasurable of ways,

you'll remember she's bound to have some rope ready 

to keep you from getting away.

Of course, you wouldn't want to anyway!

What do you think?  Did the photographer capture me?

The Clitoris is just the Tip of the Iceberg

I really love getting perspectives of other intelligent, sex-positive, highly charged individuals whose life work is to illuminate and inspire.  One such person is Kim Anami.  For a fascinating look into her life and path, go to kimanami.com and check out "a bodacious life."

Here is her latest writing and I felt compelled to share with you.  Why?  Because it excites me.  I'm one of those women that experiences orgasms beyond just the tip of the iceberg.  And once that orgasm begins, the ride has only just begun so to speak.  This takes time, letting go, surrendering to and with my lover.

Please share your thoughts, as I now have a comment box.  I'd love to hear from you. 

I am forever coming across articles that talk about women’s orgasms, or rather, a woman’s orgasm. As though there is only one.

And then I get confused. Because I wonder, “Are they talking about clitoral orgasms? G-Spot orgasms? Anal orgasms? Ear-gasms?”

I never know.

And the authors of said articles don’t seem to know either.

Presumably, they are talking about clitoral orgasms.

As these seem to be the most common female orgasm, and the one most likely to show up in a lab.

However, the clitoris is just the tip of the iceberg.

Literally.

The clitoris most people know and love is a tiny button on the external vulva which is full of pleasure and swells with touch.

The clitoris is part of a larger system of nerves and tissue which makes up the entire “clitoral bulb,” which wraps itself around the entryway of the vaginal canal, like a wishbone.

This is where things start to get good.

Inside the vagina.

Just like an iceberg, the external clitoris is only 10% (or less) of where female pleasure lies.

I often say that the clitoris is good for a warmup, a teaser to the main event.

But make no mistake, the true pleasure and power of a woman’s sexuality, and the kinds of orgasms which change her life, are located inside the vagina.

I guarantee you that.

Beyond the clitoral bulb, which covers just part of the vaginal canal, and is thought to house the legendary—and far more profound—G-Spot, is a treasure trove of sensation, depth and rebirthing potential.

I use the phrase “Pandora’s Box” to describe vaginal potential. A wild, mysterious cavern which houses transformative potential.

Don’t get waylaid by the clitoris. It’s almost like a detour.

It’s not your final resting place.

This is why so many women are lackluster about sex: they’ve only ever had clitoral orgasms. Or someone told them that the clitoris—not the vagina itself–is the pleasure source for women. And they believed it.

While clitoral orgasms are fun, kind of like eating a chocolate bar, they aren’t life-changing or life-sustaining.

They aren’t nourishing, gourmet food.

You need to go into the vagina for that.

The vagina demands that you open, surrender and fully let go to experience what it has to offer.

After my best, most cataclysmic, sexual experiences, I am glowing. I radiate peace, ease, love, confidence, and beauty. I feel like a new person. I am reborn.

My vagina does that for me, not my clitoris.

The vagina demands that you show up. Deeply.

When you are entered deeply, you have to let go deeply. You have to pull down your walls, open your legs, open your heart and let someone penetrate the deepest parts of you.

The journey towards doing all of those things internally—meaning your internal, emotional landscape—will reflect physically.

When you are vulnerable and soft, your vagina will be too.

When you tune into your own rhythm and flow, your vagina will be wet and flowing too.

When you open energetically to receive your partner, to receive desire and love, your vagina will open too.

It will swell and suck your partner right up.

The keys to the kingdom, or queendom, are found inside.

So in the land of vulvic map-making, the gold is deep within.

Don’t get waylaid by the first bit of glitter you see.

While it can lube up your journey a bit and prepare you for things to come, keep going.

90% of the Titanic-altering power is much further inside.

 Written by Kim Anami

 

Stormy Monday

I LOVE stormy weather, downpours, gusty winds, thunder and lightening.  What better song to have playing when you've arrived. I pull you through the door to unpeel your wet clothes layer by layer, entice you into a steaming hot bath, until passions bubble over and, once we've reached dry land, surrender is the only thing on your mind. 

Lord have mercy!

Introducing Miss J.F. ....and a bit of mischief!

What better time to make an introduction 

than on a night dark with mischief-making?

Miss J.F. aka Joyfull

   

Mischief-maker in her new Shibari-inspired room

My friends know I've had a bit of mischief tucked up my  sleeve,

as I've been creating a special room in my love-nest,

devoted to my Shibari-inspired rope art and a suitable space

for the slightly kinky mischief I've been enjoying with so many of you.

You will see

with this introduction of Miss J.F. and her specific charms, namely

the continuation of Shibari Sessions, and the additions of

rope bondage combined with healing touch table time, 

as well as fetish explorations.

Rest assured for those of my friends who prefer the attention of their sweetheart, Joyfull,

and find this type of mischief-making alarming,

for Miss J.F.'s devilish ways are only available by request. 

Miss J.F. is the one to request when you wish 

to try her ropes on for size.

Miss J.F. is the one to request when you seek a gentle, 

but firm new type of touch.

Miss J.F. is the one to request when you've made the decision to 

have no choice, but to surrender to new sensations.

All is now ready. Trick or Treat!  

  

Japanese-Inspired Bondage

I continue to receive inquiries regarding Shibari Practice Sessions.  Why does this excite me?

I find that many men who visit me crave the opportunity to let go, to release control to a trusted woman who will wrap them up with intricate knots, use them, toy with them, and claim them for their own pleasure.  They love the whole 'Tease And Denial' thing.  And Shibari or Japanese-Inspired Bondage can be that, but it is most assuredly different than experiences with leather and being cuffed.

As any smart student I have experienced rope bondage myself, so that I can better understand the mind space one enters when being bound.  And I continue to learn through many resources, from hands on practicums and written syllabuses with experts from around the world, to the internet and books, to the best learning opportunities possible - practicing on you and learning from your feedback and experience.
 
Turning you into an erotic work of art is just the first part of my pleasure.  There is a lovely intimacy shared between the one doing the binding and the one being bound.  It is rather difficult to explain.  Again, it is through experience that one can gain a greater understanding.  I am honored to have had many gentlemen eager to sample this experience.

Just check out this sexy, young man for example:

All I can say is yummy!  He is a wonderful, willing, not to mention SEXY practice volunteer!

I love the opportunity to be the Sensual Domme, 

to express my kinkiness in this way.

Here is another example of an older gentleman, who possesses an incredible stamina in a most twisted fashion.  The front side of this example is too hot to handle.  Well, it wasn't for me, at the time!

The second part of my pleasure comes from your response as my erotic playtoy!

One friend who frequents Shibari Practice Sessions requested a blindfold.  He says, "The blindfold added a whole new dimension. You have no idea of the pattern she is creating, the textures you will feel or how you respond to them. I could go into great detail, but things I felt may not feel the same to you."

Another comment from an established friend of mine who requests Shibari as a component of his Courtesan Encounter shares how he loved how "she would touch, tease, fondle, pinch, tickle, lick, lick, kiss, nibble and ride me to her hearts content."

I hope to entice more willing participants into my web of mischief.  Both gentlemen and ladies. 

You will surely find such a surrender 'spell-binding.'