The Secret Garden

It's my favorite time of year, when the warmer weather beckons me into The Secret Garden, daydreaming of an admirer holding me close under the cherry tree to murmur words against the softness of my neck, making me breathless with desire.

My intimate friends are few, for I am quite selective in choosing only those I feel would truly appreciate and adore me, as is my way with those special people in my life.  Chemistry and charm are key,but even a thoughtfully written introduction may not shed enough light from a hopeful new friend.  Often the only way I can ascertain if I wish to fully reveal my sensual gifts with a lover is to start with an evening of wine and dining.  I believe this will be the secret key to future inquiries for those longing for my companionship.

I love the flow of this song, much like the flow of conversation with a charming new friend.  And with that flow comes revealing parts of yourself, as you open up with trust and tenderness.  To those who find such surprise and sweetness with me, an invitation awaits to enter my Secret Garden.  We will take the path to where the sun and breezes touch our secret spots, dip our toes into bubbling fountain of the pond, and the laughter of our discovery together mingles with the lilt of the bird-songs wafting down from the surrounding wood.

Resurrection. Soaring Through Touch

It's all about resurrections this week.  Of many sorts.  
 
Not only because this Sunday is a deeply profound holy day for some and a fun holiday for many;
but also because 'resurrection', meaning a rising again, as from disuse; a recovery, reawakening, and rebirth, can be applied so beautifully to us. 
As in, what makes us experience life in a vibrant and exciting way, what makes us feel alive? 
I find myself thinking symbolically of those deeply profound experiences I've shared with a lover
of orgasmic 'rising again and reawakening'.

I find touch to be healing, especially in an intimate expression with a lover, a lover that is devoted to uplifting you to a new awareness.  Likewise, participating in my lover's resurrection, so to speak, is powerful for me.  It is their time to let go and melt into bliss under my luxurious and loving touch.  That said, it is not always easy to let go.

For my lover that enjoys surrendering fully to my control of their resurrection, things can get a bit kinky.  They will not be able to escape my focus, as we explore a variety of new sensations, pushing them closer and closer, edging toward ultimate release.

The goal in either of these touch styles is the journey seeking vibrancy in our entire being.
 
I find great inspiration from music during intimacy.  This is especially moving at this time of year - Leonard Bernstein conducting the final movement of
Gustav Mahler's "Resurrection Symphony".

A passionate piece to be sure, and orgasmic for those who have the ears to truly hear.

It gives me reflection of how lovers conduct all the movements of their 'Resurrection Symphony' together.

There with and for each other,
through soaring and finally when ready to come back down to earth.

Explore Boundaries

28 Ways to be a Better Lover

A month long celebration of love, romance, and spicy connections.

 

Day 8 - Talk About It

Pushing each others boundaries in bed can be exhilarating and rewarding, but you must learn to recognize when no means no.

There is a fabulous workshop being offered TONIGHT - Saturday, by The Center For Sex Positive Culture, an organization in Seattle - thecspc.org.  As proponents of sex positive culture, the Center believes that the appropriate uses of sex extend beyond reproduction. They include creating personal pleasure, bonding intimate relationships, promoting spiritual growth, and enhancing emotional and physical health. In a sex positive world, everyone has the freedom and resources to pursue a fulfilling and empowering sex life.  The workshop is called Exploring Boundaries - Good Fences, and I highly recommend it as an eye opener to stretching your boundaries and building up your communication skills to be more successful in your love-life. 

I enjoy creating opportunities in my Shibari Chamber where my playmates can explore their personal boundaries with rope bondage.  I also find it exciting to provide an experience that includes a variety of stimulating sensations....I call it a kinky massage.  Sensory deprivation and play, stimulating percussive body sensations, tie and tease are all uniquely designed (mild to wild) to recharge you from tip to toe.  Talking about boundaries, safe words, trust, and the like are always a prelude to any play such as this.  

It isn't everyone's cup of tea, but the only way to know that is to talk about it.  What new boundaries will you stretch and steamy discussions will you be having with your lover this month?

Come here, lover *wink*

Better Than A Box of Chocolates

28 Ways to be a Better Lover

A month long celebration of love, romance, and spicy connections.

 

Day 4 - Chocolate.  Use it!

 

How many times have you heard jokes about why chocolate is as good as -- or better than -- sex?  Believe it or not, there is a scientific link between chocolate and sexual arousal.  Surely you've bitten into a piece of chocolate and moaned.  It's time now to use chocolate to your advantage, except you'll be the reason your lover moans.  Plus science is sexy.  Do your research and learn more about aphrodisiacs and how they effect the body.  

Chocolate IS one of my favorite aphrodisiacs, dark preferred....and given the chance, I'll use it in creative ways.  Have you ever enjoyed sharing chocolates in an especially sensual way?  Consider an indulgent chocolate experience in private with me.  We'll take a paintbrush and an assortment of delicious chocolate syrups and design a dessert fit for your very own tongue.  Or allow me to turn your body into my edible masterpiece.  I especially like doing a blindfold test tasting of a few fine brands served on the most enticing setting of all - our bodies.

 

 

Want to really impress me?  Bring me a Deathcake Royale from local Seattle bakeshop - Cupcake Royale.  YUM - this includes sea-salted chocolate decadence, Stumptown espresso cookie crust, and Theo milk chocolate ganache!

 

We can enjoy it together is a steamy hot bubble bath (a topic for a future posting this month!), so that clean up is a breeze.

 

Consider this fantasy -

 

While you lay soaking in the heat, caressing a naked body, 

and nibbling the Deathcake Royale

 

drip the chocolate syrup on to whatever catches your fancy and

 

let your hungry lips taste test that luscious new chocolate syrup...

 

not to mention those pert pink nips!

 

The moans to come will definitely be about more than the chocolate.

sea-salted chocolate decadence, Stumptown espresso cookie crust and Theo milk chocolate ganache. - See more at: http://www.cupcakeroyale.com/deathcake-royale.php#sthash.SoDlNV2t.dpufsea

sea-salted chocolate decadence, Stumptown espresso cookie crust and Theo milk chocolate ganache. - See more at: http://www.cupcakeroyale.com/deathcake-royale.php#sthash.SoDlNV2t.dpuf

sea-salted chocolate decadence, Stumptown espresso cookie crust and Theo milk chocolate ganache. - See more at: http://www.cupcakeroyale.com/deathcake-royale.php#sthash.SoDlNV2t.dpuf

An Element of Surprise

28 Ways to be a Better Lover

A month long celebration of love, romance, and spicy connections.

Day 3 - Undress your lover - s l o w l y

I always love undressing my lovers.  It's that element of surprise, like unwrapping a present.  Peeling back layer upon layer and finding bare skin, softly caressing each little patch exposed to my eyes, and noting how their body responds, watching their face flicker with pleasure as they feel my hot breath on their bare skin.  It's as if they don't want me to catch them enjoying this oft forgotten act of intimacy.  Most of my lovers strip off their clothes casually, tossing them aside while reaching at me eagerly to 'get it on'. 

That's not to say that spontaneous combustion like the picture below isn't EXCITING!

It IS!  It WAS!

But, back to my seductive plan.  I do love a subtle approach.  

You may notice that S L O W E R is a part of my daily mantra.  

And so, when I've gotten halfway through removing my lover's clothes, and I notice them grinning from ear to ear, perhaps eyes closed, moaning or groaning, and a bit wet as well, I know I've been successful.

I have one lover who loves to surprise me from time to time, and the last time I got ready to peel off his whitey tighties, his eyes twinkled as he said, "I have a surprise for you!"  As I cautiously pulled back the band at the top, decorative gel hearts cascaded to the floor.  His briefs were overflowing with love (lust) for me!  What fun and what a great surprise.

I occasionally will have a surprise for my lover to discover beneath my clothes, but only if I know it will be appreciated.  I love beautiful lingerie and sexy fripperies, but there are many who just want to get it off and don't notice it.  By the way, I'll write more about those seductive underthings in another post to come during the 28 Ways (Days) to be a Better Lover.   In the meantime, if I could just convince my lover to go slower and give me the same opportunity to savor being unwrapped.  I suggest more practice....practice undressing a woman carefully, gracefully, seductively, showing you appreciate her with each layer you remove, and see how ready she is for you!