Here's That Rainy Day...

Gazing out the window... 

Thinking of you after you've gone. 

Recalling the soft pattering of raindrops on the window as we entwined our thoughts and limbs around each other. 

Lost in the velvety grey clouds and our slow caresses on satiny skin, 

til breathless we sink back to our world with cozy consciousness.

Explore Boundaries

28 Ways to be a Better Lover

A month long celebration of love, romance, and spicy connections.

 

Day 8 - Talk About It

Pushing each others boundaries in bed can be exhilarating and rewarding, but you must learn to recognize when no means no.

There is a fabulous workshop being offered TONIGHT - Saturday, by The Center For Sex Positive Culture, an organization in Seattle - thecspc.org.  As proponents of sex positive culture, the Center believes that the appropriate uses of sex extend beyond reproduction. They include creating personal pleasure, bonding intimate relationships, promoting spiritual growth, and enhancing emotional and physical health. In a sex positive world, everyone has the freedom and resources to pursue a fulfilling and empowering sex life.  The workshop is called Exploring Boundaries - Good Fences, and I highly recommend it as an eye opener to stretching your boundaries and building up your communication skills to be more successful in your love-life. 

I enjoy creating opportunities in my Shibari Chamber where my playmates can explore their personal boundaries with rope bondage.  I also find it exciting to provide an experience that includes a variety of stimulating sensations....I call it a kinky massage.  Sensory deprivation and play, stimulating percussive body sensations, tie and tease are all uniquely designed (mild to wild) to recharge you from tip to toe.  Talking about boundaries, safe words, trust, and the like are always a prelude to any play such as this.  

It isn't everyone's cup of tea, but the only way to know that is to talk about it.  What new boundaries will you stretch and steamy discussions will you be having with your lover this month?

Come here, lover *wink*

In The Shadows

Revealing your hidden desires

I am honored in my experiences with my friends to often be a part of their discovery of their deepest sexual needs, their desires, and even their wildest fantasies.  They must feel they are in a safe place, with an attentive ear, and a nonjudgmental heart to open up.  Often they have stuffed their desires into a dark space, occasionally revealing them in the shadows, but not without tightening of breath, pulsating heartbeat, and anxiety.

I love this picture.  A manly kind-hearted fellow who loves the feeling of stockings.  Where can he wear stockings without fear of ridicule and judgement?  Must he hide his longings under clothes that conventional society would find acceptable?  Actually I have a few answers to these questions that I've shared with him privately.  And I encourage him to continue exploring his feelings and the desires that bring him pleasure.

In the meantime I love our playtime.  I love seeing his grin when I strip off his pants to discover he is wearing these pretty lace-topped stockings.  His face may be in the shadows, but he's revealed his hidden desires with me.